Kalmar Asalin

THE

WORD

SANARWA, 1913.


Copyright, 1913, da HW PERCIVAL.

MUTANE DA ABUWA.

Shin ya fi dacewa mutum yakamata ya kawar da sha'awar jima'i, kuma ya kamata ya yi ƙoƙari ya rayu da lalacewa?

Lallai wannan ya dogara ne akan dalilin mutum da yanayin mutumin. Zai fi kyau a yi ƙoƙarin murkushe ko kashe sha'awar jima'i; amma ya fi dacewa koyaushe da kamewa. Idan mutum ba shi da wani abin da ya fi kama da na jima'i; idan mutum yayi hukunci da yanayin dabba; kuma idan mutum yana rayuwa don samun da more rayuwa, don raha da tunani a kan nishaɗin jima'i, ba shi yiwuwa ya yi ƙoƙarin murƙushe ko kashe sha'awoyin jima'i- kodayake yana iya "rayuwa bautar gumaka."

Dangane da “Standard Dictionary,” maƙarƙashiya yana nufin, “halin mutumin da bai yi aure ba ko ma ɗaurin aure, musamman na mutumin da bai yi aure ba; kaurace wa aure; kamar yadda, shi ma keɓaɓɓe na firist. ”An faɗi ƙwararrun mazaunin shine,“ wanda ya kasance marar aure. musamman, mutumin da ke daure wa rayuwa guda ta alƙawarin addini. ”

Wanda ke da halin jiki da kwakwalwa ya cancanci yin aure, amma wanda ya yi rayuwa cikin ɗaurin aure don tserewa ga dangantaka, nauyin da sakamakon aure, wanda kuma ba shi da wasiyya ko sha'awar sarrafa yanayin jima'i, yawanci annoba ce Dan-adam, ko yana da 'yanci ko kuma bashi da' yanci ga alwashi, ko dai yana da umarni ko bai dauki umarni ba yana karkashin tsari da kariya ta Ikilisiya. Tsira da amincin tunani suna da mahimmanci ga rayuwar katange cikin wanda zai shiga ruhun wancan rayuwar. Akwai karancin mazajen aure, wadanda basu da aure, wadanda basu da masaniyar tunani da ayyukan jima'i fiye da wadanda suke zama cikin jihar daurin aure.

Mutanen da suke jin daɗi a cikin gida a duniya kuma masu ƙoshin lafiya, ɗabi'a, masu hankali don yin aure, galibi suna yin watsi da aiyuka da ɗaukar nauyi ta hanyar kasancewa marasa aure. Dalilin da yasa mutum yayi rayuwar aure yakamata ya kasance: kebewa daga dangi, aiki, nauyi, doka ko akasin hakan; alwashi, rama, umarni na addini; don cin nasara; don samun lada; zuwa sama lokacin rayuwa na iko ko na ruhaniya. Dalilin yin rayuwar aure shi ne: mutum ya kasa cika aikin da ya yi nasa da nufin yin shi, kuma a lokaci guda ya kasance mai aminci ga ayyukan da suka dosa ga matar aure; Ma'ana, rayuwar aure zata dace dashi saboda aikinsa. Wannan baya nufin wasu ayyukan son zuciya ko fadan fa'ida dalili ne na sanya mutum yayi aure. Babu wata sana'a ko wata sana'a da ke ba da garantin yin aure. Aure ba ya hana abin da galibi ake kira rayuwar “addini” ko ta "ruhaniya". Ofisoshin addini wadanda kyawawan halaye ne ke iya cika su kamar yadda waɗanda ba su yi aure ba; kuma sau da yawa tare da aminci ga mai ikirari kuma ya shaida fiye da lokacin da mai ikirarin bashi da aure. Wanda ya yi aure galibi ya fi karfin bayar da shawara fiye da wanda bai shiga cikin dokar aure ba.

Santuwa ta wajaba ga wanda ya dage da samun kai ga rashin mutuwa. Amma dalilin sa na rayuwa yakamata ya kasance, don haka zai fi dacewa ya hidimta wa mutane. Amincewar ba wuri bane ga wanda ke shirin shiga hanyar zuwa rayuwa mara mutuwa; kuma idan ya yi nisa zai sami aiki mafi mahimmanci. Wanda ya dace ya yi rayuwar daurin aure ba zai shakkar menene aikinsa ba. Wanda ya dace da rayuwa ta hanyar sarin jiki bashi da 'yanci daga sha'awar jima'i; amma ba ya kokarin murkushe shi ko ya kashe shi. Yana koyon yadda za ta kame shi da sarrafa ta, Wannan ya koya yana yi da hankali da iyawa. Dole ne mutum ya yi rayuwa cikin ɗaurin aure cikin tunani, kafin ya iya a zahiri. Sannan ya rayu don kowa, ba tare da lahani ga kansa ko wasu ba.

Aboki [HW Percival]